Unlike my normal Rants, which are mostly about money (although all this strongly relates to money), I’m instead going to get a bit deep and meaningful for a change. Not quite sure how I will go but I will give it my best shot.
It comes from the fact that recently a client pointed out to me that even though the position I’ve taken in the market place is the position of the “no-bull money guy” that on closer inspection I talk a lot about behaviour. And on reflection, it’s true and a step we can’t seem to skip in our search for financial success. Mostly it’s your head that gets in the way… Your “neck top” computer.
You see, after 58 years of expensive experience working with a whole lot of successful individuals up close and personal in the zoo cage, sometimes in the boardroom and lucky for me, occasionally in the bedroom, there are behaviours common to successful people.
And it’s these “success commonalities” that should be of most interest to you. For every other reason these successful people are as dysfunctional as you and me. And to be quite honest, I suspect I am more dysfunctional than most, except where money is concerned.
The rest of this Rant will reveal why I believe most people fail to achieve what they passionately desire and why only 4% of people act on a solution to a problem when it’s presented to them.
In life, the great truths are elegantly simple and here I believe it’s no exception. In order to be successful, you have to…Take Risks but that’s not the BIG Secret why people fail.
Most people are afraid to take risks because they are afraid to fail.
They are afraid to fail because they suffer from low self-esteem. People with a high self-esteem don’t take failure personally. So if you want to be more successful, build up your self-esteem. After all, we learn more from our mistakes than we do from our successes.
And I know with all the mistakes I have made, I should be a whole lot smarter than what I am now. You see, I have made hundreds of mistakes and hopefully enough to get good at something. I learnt this “Secret of Success” in my 58 years of expensive experience.
The elegant truth is if you want to be successful, you have to see failure differently, you have to…
RAISE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
A strong self esteem makes you less concerned about what other people think of you and less afraid of failure, it increases your likely hood of success. Successful people have a high self-esteem
SELF-ESTEEM is a term used in psychology to reflect a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs (for example, “I am competent” or “I am incompetent”) and emotions such as triumph, despair, pride and shame. A person’s self-esteem may be reflected in their behavior, such as in assertiveness, shyness, confidence or caution
Self-Esteem is your internal view on your ability to do anything. If your brain thinks you can do something, you can, but if it thinks you can’t, you can’t. That’s why you can’t hit yourself in the nose because your survival mechanism (your brain) won’t let you (fail).
Your brain stops you from taking action, that way you never fail… It’s protecting you.
So why do we have such poor self-esteem? One reason is we have been taught to be more modest. When we succeed and achieve great and wonderful things.
We are being taught to be modest. Which one would you say is more important, modesty or honesty?
When we achieve something great we say silly things like “Shucks, that was nothing” “Golly Gee, anyone could have done that!” “I was just doing what anyone would have done” I read about a guy who ran into a burning house recently to save somebody, his comment was “anyone would of done it”… I don’t think so.
The problem is society makes a big deal out of our mistakes and embarrasses and ridicules us so we NEVER do it again. Society tells everyone you failed, that’s the way it is. There’s a big imbalance in that we… blow off compliments and blow up mistakes
A great way to raise your self-esteem is by listing 5 GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENTS you have had in your life. If you think about it, I bet you could come up with 5 great accomplishments of your own.
Here are my 5 GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENTS in order to what’s important for me:
PARENTING – I’m really proud of the parent I am, I’m no drunk unlike my dad who was no great role model. Very proud of the relationship I have with my two children.
WHO I HAVE BECOME – Having failed pretty much everything at school, quite amazing that I have become the “Millionaire Maker” I am today and the “Coach of the Coaches” of this country. I really had to get out of my comfort zone to achieve this. I have even got to live my passion, helping business owners and entrepreneurs, those great risk takers
WHO I HAVE HELPED – I get great pleasure from the friendships I created by being able to free people from financial poverty, even save people from bankruptcy. I am much loved by many (but not by all) some openly choose to forget where they learnt it, who taught it to them and in fact, today claim to of figured it out all on their own. Seems to me they think you get paid more if you actually invent fire, in other words, got a rock and a stick and rubbed them together.
WAKE UP HAPPY AND POSITIVE – My dearly departed wife described me as happy, funny, bossy and controlling. Truer words were never spoken, I think it’s the best description of me I have ever heard.
ZERO TO SELF MADE MULTI-MILLIONAIRE – Basically from poverty, largely ignorant and dumb parents (not their fault), although much loved, openly by my mum, I have achieved what most people who knew me in my informative years, would of thought was impossible
Now go make your self-esteem list. I suspect you have got lots to be proud of and hopefully it will be an exercise in firstly building your self-esteem, secondly making you more immune to criticism and someone who now sees’s failure for what it really is… an opportunity to correct, an opportunity to get closer to success not further away.
All the best,
Committed to Elevating the Financial Wealth and Wellbeing of Society
Through Entrepreneurial Excellence and Guilty of Conspiracy to Create Capitalism
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